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Body Language Signals - Do You Attract Other People?Posted on 4/17/2008 at 8:19 AM - 1 Comments - Post Comment - LinkEven if you never say a word, your face and body are constantly sending out messages to other people about your mood.In fact, some body language experts claim that only about 7% of our messages are communicated through the words we speak. The rest of our messages are conveyed through our body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions. During your entire life you have been sending messages to others through your posture, gestures, and facial expressions. When you were an infant, before you learned to speak, people were peering into your little baby face, looking at your gestures, and listening to your little cries and gurgles, trying to decipher what kind of mood you were in, and what you were trying to say. And you have been reading and reacting to the body language, voice tone, and facial expressions of the people around you all your life, even though you may not have been aware of it. What sorts of messages does your body language usually send to others? Does your body language encourage other people to approach you? Or do you frighten them away? If you usually stand or sit with your arms folded across your chest, do you think this posture encourages others to come and talk to you? Most people will interpret your arms crossed in front of your chest as a signal that you don’t want anyone to approach you. Only the bravest souls are likely to come forward when you adopt this posture. If you stand awkwardly, with your chest slumped forward, your shoulders drooping, and your eyes avoiding everyone else, people are likely to decide you are very depressed or completely lacking in confidence. They may fear that trying to talk with you will be an awkward experience because you do not project any sign that you are confident in yourself, or that you have any interest in the people around you. No matter how desperately you want someone to come over and befriend you, if your body language projects awkwardness or disinterest in others, it’s not very likely that many people will try to start a conversation with you. If there are body language signals that can frighten people away, are there signals that will encourage people to come forward and approach you? Yes, there are measures you can take to increase the perception that you are open, approachable and non-threatening. You can practice these gestures in front of a mirror in the privacy of your own home until you are able to easily project the look of a person who is friendly, confident, and approachable. Whether you are sitting or standing, aim for a posture that is upright and alert, yet relaxed. If you notice that your chest or shoulders are slumping, straighten up. Become aware of the way you are breathing. Does your breath move in and out smoothly? Or does it move with jerky little stops and starts? If you notice that you are holding your breath, or breathing in a jerky manner, this is a sign of anxiety. If you are breathing shallowly, using only the top part of your chest, you are not taking in enough air. When you breathe shallowly, you have to breathe more frequently, which can increase your appearance of nervousness. Use your abdomen to help you breathe smoothly and deeply in a relaxed manner. Let the bottom part of your lungs fill up with air as well as the top. What are you doing with your hands? If you get nervous in social situations, you may feel that no matter what you do with your hands, it’s the wrong thing. Many people who cross their arms in front of their chest are probably doing so at least in part because they don’t know where else to put their hands. Don’t cross your arms in front of your chest unless you really don’t want anybody to approach you. That is the message this gesture sends out. If you want to look more open and approachable, keep your arms to your sides, or put one hand in your pocket. If you want to hold something in one hand, keep your hand at the side of your body, not in front of you. Holding your arm in front of your body can send a subtle signal that you want to defend yourself against the approach of others. What sort of facial expression should you have if you want people to approach you? In most cases, a gentle, pleasant smile should do the trick. Too much of a smile that never softens can look forced and nervous. A pleasant smile with a twinkle in your eyes will help to convey the impression that chatting with you will be a pleasant experience. Check Your FrequencyPosted on 3/29/2008 at 6:14 AM - 0 Comments - Post Comment - LinkFrom time to time we need to stop during our day to keep ourfrequency in check. Our frequencies are the ranges of feelings and emotions that we have. Like radio waves, our feelings and emotions vibrate at different frequencies. This is a major part of how we create our reality. And why we need to always be mindful of the frequencies we're emitting. Like attracts like and opposites repel. And there is no such thing as coincidence. When something happens to you that seems like a coincidence it's not. You were just in sync with your vibrations at that time. You're at a music store looking for an old CD and right when you're about to give up you happen to look in a different section for something else. What you find is the CD that you were originally looking for. If your frequency is low you attract more low frequency events in your life. Remember that there is no such thing as coincidence. For example, you wake up in a bad mood and throughout the day nothing goes right for you. As soon as you get to work, the parking lot is full so you have to park in the garage that's a block away. Whats worse, it starts pouring down rain and you don't have an umbrella with you. Okay, that's a little drastic but you get the point. chance it could. But how do you prevent situations like this? Well you need to keep your frequency in check. Remember, like attracts like so if your frequency is low you get more of the same until you change it. You need to pay attention to yourself and realize when your frequency has hit a low point. Well how do you bring your vibration back up? By changing the station. Frequencies and feelings are like radio waves, if you don't like whats on then change it. Switch your thoughts and feelings to something that can bring your vibration back up. Find something that makes you feel good. It can be anything that makes you feel good just by thinking about it - favorite memories, favorite songs, favorite people - anything as long as it makes you feel good. Picture your favorite thought as a different radio station that you can flip to whenever you notice your frequency going down. The same way you would change the station in your car if you didn't like the song that was playing. It's as simple as that. |
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